How does the self-concept develop?

One of the sources of self-concept is based upon our experiences.  Think about the years you were growing up.  What did you read?  What did you watch on TV?  What were the topics of discussion?  What did you talk about?  Who were your friends?  What are your memories concerning your neighborhood?  What do you recall from elementary, middle, or high school?  Did you enjoy school?  What clubs were you in?  Why?  What activities did you participate in and with whom?  What sports did you play?  Did you volunteer?  Did you travel?

I grew up on a hog and dairy farm.  I read Hot Rod magazine and Boys Life.  I watched Captain Kangaroo before I went to country school.  I watched regional spotlight and John Deere Bandwagon in the evening before chores, and Mannix and Cannon after chores.  My family didn’t travel.

I was a member of 4-H and the Future Farmers of America.  I volunteered.  I ran cross-country, wrestled, played golf, and ran track.  I acted in plays and I actually enjoyed high school.

Result:  I still own a sports car.  I still support youth organizations.  I still volunteer.  I still have close friends that are farmers and I haven’t missed a class reunion.

So, our experiences are a source of our self-concept.  Consider this:  significantly change your experiences and you can significantly change your self-concept.

As you move through your days and through your life, consider your options and choices.  See your life like you are driving a car.  You can turn the wheel and head a different direction anytime you would like.  Where would you like to go?

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