I will have to say that I struggle with perfectionism. I try to hide my vulnerabilities. I try to please others. I tend to scurry and hurry to get as much done as possible. I mean, I really try hard. But no matter my efforts, I often feel like I’m not doing enough. I feel defeated and deflated. Sound familiar?

These are self-destructive beliefs. You need to be ready to attack your self-destructive beliefs by complimenting yourself.

How to Attack Self-Destructive Beliefs

1. Start by focusing on your positive qualities, skills, and talents. Analyze yourself as realistically as possible. Consider your communicative strengths, your intellectual or educational strengths, and your personality strengths. List your skills, abilities, attributes, and talents.

2. Draft a long list of professional experiences along with the knowledge and the skill you have acquired from those different positions, challenges, and activities.

3. Next focus on your good relationships with friends and relatives. List all of your positive friendships, coworker relationships, and personal and professional acquaintances. List all of your productive and meaningful relationships with family and loved ones.

From this list, be sure to seek out the nourishing people and stay as far away as possible from the noxious ones. Spend time with positive people and enjoy those rewarding relationships. Minimize the time you spend with critical coworkers and fault-finding friends.

Also, be sure to remind yourself of your successes, from when you were young, until today. Give yourself credit for your accomplishments, good acts, and good deeds.

Finally, regularly work on projects that guarantee or result in success. Invest a little time, maybe on a daily basis, doing the things you do well and enjoy. Spend time enjoying your hobby, playing a sport, or video game. This feeling of competence and success will enhance your self-esteem.

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