Many of us would like to become more resilient. You may want to be known or recognized for your resiliency. However, people are unique individuals with unique perspectives and personalities. When it comes to building resiliency, one size does not fit all.

Developing resiliency is a personal process. Since we are all unique individuals, you need to experiment and find your own unique combination of strategies to build up your resiliency muscles. Here are some strategies to consider.

Invest some time in relationships with people that genuinely care about you and get their feedback and support. These conversations can help you interpret and respond to challenges and changes differently.

Consider what parts of the problem or obstacle are controllable, or at least negotiable. Focus on elements that you can impact or alter. You may not get exactly what you want, it could be even better.

Start making small decisions and regain your confidence in your common sense and problem solving and decision-making skills. Find a simple problem-solving formula or decision making model that balances logic with emotion and use it.

Invest some time in rediscovering your strengths and abilities. Be kind to yourself and give yourself credit for past accomplishments and rebuild your self-esteem.

Remind yourself that you have managed to get through every other bad day you’ve had. You’ll make it through this one, too.

Rebuild your self-esteem. Try not to take setbacks personally. Chant, “I like myself, I like myself, I like myself,” and mean it. You will feel more resilient right away.

Sometimes you get knocked down. Resiliency helps you get back up. Resiliency helps you get your bearings, get back up on your knees, get back up on your feet, and get back to work on getting better.

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